Saumus Rocky Life
She had taken a vacation to celebrate her success, when she learnt of the unexpected turn of events. “It was a month after my graduation that I realised I was pregnant. I hadn’t noticed anything unusual with my body.
When the tests came out, I was shocked. It was something I had not planned for. I felt like I had disappointed my parents, considering I had just graduated. I had even planned to enroll for my Masters degree in the UK after my undergrad,” she shares.
In that state of shock and confusion, Saumu decided to run away from home to just put things in perspective. Her main challenge was her parents, especially her dad whom, she feared, would be disappointed by the news.
She ran to her boyfriend’s Benson Gatu’s place, who is the baby daddy. They had met in campus where they were both schooling, and their relationship had also been a subject of interest for gossip blogs.
After two weeks, she surfaced at her parents’ home, but mostly kept to herself. It wasn’t going to be long till she faced the inevitable. She had to gather courage after some time to break the news to them. Her mother was supportive.
“My dad did not speak to me for like a month. He seemed okay, but he didn’t have much to say. I think he just needed time to adjust to that fact,” says Saumu. After coming to terms with the reality, more issues lay ahead, as things got rocky between her and her boyfriend.
Baby Daddy Drama
Drama ensued after Saumu discovered she was pregnant. She says Gatu had started acting ‘funny and weird’. He also accused her of being “too close” to one of her male friends.
“I had moved in with Gatu, when he started acting up. He would claim to have gone for a business trip, and I would later learn that it was all lies. He was cheating on me with another woman.
That is why I even posted about it on social media, because it was someone I knew – a daughter to one of the governors,” she says. “I do not mean to tarnish his name or his political ambitions, but this is one story I have to make clear.
Yes, he is my baby daddy, but the fact is, he did wrong. He used to leave me at our house and go to the woman’s place in Kileleshwa or secretly go to Coast with her, only for me to hear about it through my friends.
During my last trimester, the guy had disappeared. Even for clinical appointments and other important matters, he was nowhere to be seen. Many are the nights I used to cry myself to sleep. I ended up frustrated, and when I couldn’t take it anymore, I moved back to my parents’ home,” Saumu says.
Seeing as a break-up was certain, she called off plans to tie the knot with Gatu in August.
Single parenthood
Nursing a heartbreak while pregnant was not easy, but she soldiered on, and in early March, she welcomed her daughter Sasha.
“The birth of my daughter has brought so much joy to my family. I got so much support from my family and close friends throughout the journey. I felt like I had been reborn.
A baby changes everything. It shifts focus in an instant, it’s something I can’t explain,” says Saumu. She says she is ready for life as a single parent, but is also open to co-parent with Gatu if he so wishes, but some conditions have to be met.`
