Ruz Hoff, a distinguished social worker based in Germany, recently sparked conversations with her candid remarks about marriage and African culture.
Born and raised in Uganda to Rwandan-Ugandan parents, Hoff’s experiences straddle multiple cultural contexts, offering a unique lens through which to examine societal norms and expectations.
In a revealing YouTube video, Hoff shared her personal reflections on why she feels she can’t marry an African man despite her heritage.
”Throughout my life, I’ve never been voluptuous enough for an African man. You know, you’re expected to have a big ‘Nyash,’ as most people call it, which means a well-shaped, ample derrière. And then, you’re supposed to have, you know, all the other curves, which I’ve never had in my entire life,” she said.
Beyond physical attributes, Hoff delves into deeper cultural differences.
She criticizes traditional African gender roles, where men are often revered as kings within the family, a concept she rejects in favor of equal partnership.
“I don’t subscribe to that, but I know from the African culture where I come from and from other African people that I have interacted with, the men are seen as gods in the family. Here I am, someone who doesn’t subscribe to that belief; I believe in equal partnership,” she added.
She says that while she wants her husband to be ‘king’ in some instances, she does not want to be his servant; she doesn’t want to be his peasant.
“Unfortunately, that’s how most married women are treated in Africa, which again explains why I could never, not even for whatever reasons, marry an African man.”
You can watch her full video here;
https://youtu.be/Kf-7SmotzdU?si=dJgjmqfN7l5nhKKp
