Do you always attract toxic women?
You’re attractive, responsible, and hardworking, and yet, you seem to date women who humiliate you in public, treat you shabbily, and walk all over you.
Initially, she comes across as perfect, as innocent as a dove, and just like that, you’re swept in a whirlwind of love and romance. After a while though, her real personality emerges through the cracks.
Before long, you’re left pulling yourself from the emotional entanglement. Again.
It’s not your fault.
You’re not wrong to want a relationship that can help you grow. To want a woman who will not only provide significant value to your life but will also support you in reaching your purpose and make you incredibly happy.
But if you want to be happy and find lasting love, you should avoid the following types of toxic women:
1. The liar.
My friend had a three-year relationship with a woman whose movements were unpredictable and sneaky.
Their plans would almost always fall through and she would come up with a string of explanations — none of which added up. She was up to her eyeballs with lies and excuses which had no credibility.
But my friend, being deeply in love with her, kept buying into them. Recently though, he finally had enough and ended the fake relationship.
When you’re involved with a liar, she plays a dangerous game of chess with your emotions and can leave you emotionally exhausted. You’ll never be safe with her because you can’t rely on her to be true all the way.
Although my friend is lonely, I’m glad he is free.
2. The radical feminist.
I’ll admit that I consider myself a feminist, and I’m glad that more women are viewing themselves this way. How can this not be a good thing when men and women were created equal?
But here’s the sad thing; In the lines of feminism, another kind of woman is emerging- the radical feminist.
She is a self- acclaimed leader who believes she’s born to save women from men. To her, men are horrible humans and she has no respect for them.
Because she doesn’t respect your boundaries, she’ll give you unsolicited advice with little or no regard for your opinion.
Deep down, the radical feminist is a victim of pain and past trauma. As such, she refuses to accept there are good men out there, which is why you shouldn’t waste a day with such a woman.
3. The party animal.
A girl I knew loved being the center of the attention, and she wore heavy make-up, bright and tight clothes that left nothing to the imagination.
She would party for hours and then proceed to have after-parties in her home. The next day, she would clean her messy apartment while nursing a terrible hangover.
Look, there’s nothing wrong with having fun. But a party animal wants to do it all. The. Time.
She doesn’t know her limits, and her life is unbalanced because she neglects crucial aspects of her life. You can’t make any plans with her because she is unreliable.
If you enter into a relationship with her, she’ll not only make you empty your wallet, but you’ll waste your valuable time. The truth? The party animal never wants to settle down.
4. The drama queen.
You don’t have to look far to see her.
The drama queen is loud and craves attention. She has no limits whatsoever and will not think twice before flirting with your best friend. She picks fights for the tiniest of reasons and almost nothing can make her change her mind.
The drama queen is an expert gossiper and has her nose in other peoples’ business all the time. Instead of focusing on herself, she is deeply focused on others, she ridicules and finds fault in everything.
If you enter a relationship with a drama queen, you’ll never find stability because her drama will leave you exhausted and overwhelmed.
5. The needy woman.
You can smell her from miles away. She always wants you to tell her she’s beautiful and no matter how many times you repeat that to her, she remains fixated on her slightest flaw.
Because she doesn’t believe in herself, she lives of your validation. The needy woman will consume you with her neediness because the focus is on her and all she knows is to keep taking and taking some more.
Be careful not to end up with this one because nothing is ever good enough for her and being with her will leave you depleted and drained. You don’t want that.
6. The beauty only.
She’s a gorgeous woman who makes heads turn. Regrettably though, as gorgeous as she is, that’s all there is to her.
You can’t have a deep connection with her because she can’t relate with you and therefore you can’t depend on her. Communication with the trophy girl only surface-deep because her life is centered on her looks and her body.
Sure, she’ll make you feel like a million bucks when she stands on your shoulders. In fact, your friends will envy you. But you won’t be able to live to up to your potential because she’s incapable of supporting you.
7. The spender.
There’s no denying that women love shopping, but a spender goes all in. As a compulsive shopper, she has no control over her money and she prioritizes shopping over saving or investing.
According to an article by psychologist Elizabeth Hartney, the spender cashes in on the latest fashion trends because of addiction.
This is why the spender will drag you in her exaggerated lifestyle and leave you in a dangerous position financially. You’ll accumulate debt, and you won’t make any wise investment, meaning you’ll not expand your financial base.
Also, doesn’t it make you wonder if she can’t manage her money, can she manage her emotions?
The big question: Can these toxic women change? Absolutely. However, it’s not your job to fix them. At the end of the day, people change only when they want to.
So. Don’t put your life on hold as you wait for them to change and love you back. Shahida Arabi says it best:
“When you notice someone does something toxic the first time, don’t wait for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Many survivors are used to the “wait and see” tactic which only leaves them vulnerable to a second attack.’’
Instead, put yourself first and determine what matters to you and then focus on that. You’re loaded with potential and a great future, but the wrong kind of woman will stifle your growth and also make you unhappy.
You’re too valuable to allow them in your life. What you need is to find a person whom you love and who can add value to your life. Remember, your happiness is too precious, treat it as such.