How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

Toxic relationships can make you feel unhappy, undermine your self-worth, and even make you wonder whether you deserve love at all. And the scariest part is that it can happen without you even noticing it and realizing it’s happening. For example, you might always want to go above and beyond for your partner. They, on the other hand, might give back very little. This dynamic can have disastrous effects on you.

We want you to be aware of this kind of relationship and try to avoid being in one, and here`s why.

Giving and taking

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

However, it can become unhealthy when one partner does all the giving, and another one does all the taking and gives nothing in return. If you`re a naturally selfless, affectionate, and caring person, you like to always be there for your partner. And it might be even less apparent to you that they aren`t really trying to give you as much in return.

At first, your help might be appreciated, but then your partner might start taking it for granted. They might start taking advantage of you, constantly needing you to get them out of some trouble that they themselves created.

Signs that you are a giver

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

  • You feel responsible for your partner and feel the need to help them. You see no other way of dealing with the situation, it`s what you have to do.
  • You think they wouldn`t be able to cope without you. So that responsibility you already feel becomes even heavier, because you`re convinced that your partner would be lost without you. And you can`t let that happen.

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

  • Your partner`s needs come first. You spend too much time on your loved one`s problems and often put dealing with your own problems and responsibilities aside.
  • You think that if you stop coming to your partner`s rescue and if you stop giving them constant support, they won`t want to keep being in a relationship with you.

How being a constant giver can hurt you

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

At one point, it might even get hard for you to see yourself as something separate from your partner. You might find it hard, and even almost impossible, to imagine what it`s like to be single, apart from them.

What you can do about it

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

Maybe you don`t even realize that you`re in a relationship where you`re a giver, and your partner is a taker. And you don`t understand where all this exhaustion and where your negative feelings come from. You can`t quite understand what`s wrong.

How Giving Too Much of Yourself Can Turn Any Relationship Into a Toxic One

If you`re in a new relationship, set your boundaries right away. Don`t over-invest too soon, before you know your partner better and before you`re certain they`ll be just as supportive of you as you`re ready to be of them.

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