One survey found that 2.2% of married people reported that they had had more than one partner during a year. In general, according to researchers, between 15–25% of married Americans have affairs and men are more likely to engage in cheating than women. And there is a question as to why husbands who cheat don’t want to divorce, but still keep cheating.
We prefer to be objective about this topic and found 8 reasons why husbands don’t want to leave their wives for good.
1. His home is still the best place, in his opinion.
There is no question in his head about whether he should leave. He doesn’t want this because, without his wife, it would be difficult for him to manage the house. Maybe there is no love or passion anymore, but there are friendship and respect. He just wants a comfort zone where he can take the best nap.
2. He is just looking for a “break.”
There is a big love between partners, but having an affair is just a time to relax and feel adventurous.
3. He thought he could find the answer about life in an affair, but hasn’t yet.
The answer was simple. He didn’t do it because there was something wrong with her or because she was an awful wife. He did it because there was something wrong with him.
Some men think that if there is a new woman, something will change and they will become happy, but it doesn’t happen. They do love their wives but still, they can be experiencing some psychological problems.
4. He actually loves his wife.
Another guy was able to answer this question. He had been happily married for more than 20 years and had kids. And yes, he loved his wife a lot, but he had been cheating for more than 15 years. It is just a “fetish” for him. At the same time, he also feels guilty about it.
5. He doesn’t have enough courage to change his life completely.
Sometimes in these cases, some men may prefer to divorce and get married again, but others can’t do it. They still have a huge connection with their wife.
6. He feels that there are strong chains, like children or a mortgage.
Maybe there is no love anymore between the spouses, but the responsibilities are still there and these chains can be very strong.
Some men may prefer to leave everything like it is just so they don’t have to go through the tears, anger, and yelling that comes with this experience. Even if there is no healthy relationship anymore, it is just easier to find a lover.
Besides this, he still doesn’t want to stress out his kids and wife.
8. He realized he made a mistake when having an affair.
Of course, there are many opinions about whether he should confess or not, but even if she found out about it, he doesn’t want to break up with her because he still loves her.