I have dated a handful of wealthy men from Fortune 500 executives, trust fund babies, bankers to successful businessmen. It mostly has something to do with my love for the Mad Men look. I love dressing like I am from the late 50s – early 60s. I adore men who wear beautiful suits. Men who can afford well fitted bespoke suits often make good money.
It is always interesting that almost all of them would use the money to impress me. They talk about their cars, their yachts, their properties, their businesses. It actually gets very annoying. They would comment ” other men cannot give you XYZ.” I often just laugh and change the topic. It is somewhat an insult to my intelligence for them to think I adore them for their wealth. Wealth, Power and Fame all fade. I am practical. I would look for a lot more.
Once a guy sent me a photo of his black card. My colleague saw the photo and told me I should blur out the name and the numbers and Instagram Story. I didn’t do it. I had a feeling there is a side I haven’t seen yet. We often act a certain way to hide the truth. I have done it a million times.
I asked his best friend What the top 3 best things about him are. The best friend told me how they met.
“I met him in XXX when he was super rich and I was a waiter that served him. He treated me like a brother when most would be condescending or simply dismissive…”
Behind a flashy and cocky facade, there was a nice guy with a big heart. That story was 100x more attractive than the tacky black card photo. The card can come and go. But the way a man treats someone who has nothing to offer him tells a lot about him. That story made me smile.
Most men try to impress women with their wealth and success. But they forget the fact that most women want someone to shelter and make them feel safe. A woman wants to feel like she’s worth something to him.
It is so sexy when someone treats others with kindness. If one day I have nothing to offer him, I can hope he won’t throw me away like last season booties.
For a man who taught me not to judge a person after the first impression.
You do realize that this question is extremely subjective, right? What I find attractive won’t resonate with all women. I cannot be their spokesperson.
