- Unprotected sex.
There is nothing sexy in having to deal with an STD for months or even a lifetime because you couldn’t contain yourself from having 90 seconds of pleasure (sometimes even less) without protection. - Breaking bridges.
I get it, sometimes our bosses are less than ideals but in this case, you always have the option of getting a new job and breaking up with your company in good terms and not only for the references.Remember, you don’t want to insult your boss, apply to a new company and realizes that the hiring manager is friends with your ex-boss.
Jensen Rodriguez’s answer to What’s the shadiest thing your employer did before firing you? - Confessing your darkest secrets to your significant other.
Your partner might make you feel butterflies now, but they may one day become your worse enemy if you have a nasty break up with them.You don’t want your potential future enemy to have your deepest and darkest secrets in their possession. - Keeping toxic people around.
These people rarely change and they always drain your soul. Cut them out of your life as soon as possible, they are not worth a second of your time. - Engaging in one-sided relationships.
You know those people that only talk about themselves and their own affairs without ever asking you a single question about your life?They don’t care about you, they are in it only for themselves, (see N. 4).
Jensen Rodriguez’s answer to What is something people do wrong unintentionally? - Following your passion.
This one is unpopular, but I am mentioning it for a reason.If your passion is to become a famous singer, and you have a terrible voice, don’t have access to producers, aren’t business savvy and don’t even have the will to move to another city where the best resources are available, you aren’t following anything, you are placing yourself first in line for failure.Now, if you work hard, are good enough and have the necessary resources to at least have a fair advantage, then go for it.
Otherwise, passion is not always enough in life, you still need to bring food to the table.
Jensen Rodriguez’s answer to What is your life philosophy on knowing when to “throw in the towel”? - Not protecting your reputation with your life.
It doesn’t matter how good of a person you are if people believe that you are the most disgusting animal in the world.It doesn’t matter how much better you are than your coworkers and how much you believe yourself worthy of that promotion if you screwed up your chance of making an impact during the presentation that you gave to the people that will decide on who will get the promotion while your co-worker managed to rock it.How you see yourself is very important, but it doesn’t mean much if you can’t achieve anything because you somehow manage to screw up your reputation every single time.
Jensen Rodriguez’s answer to What was the most surprising reason why a co-worker was fired? - Getting drunk at college parties.
It is fine to drink, you can even have a drink too many but makes sure that you aren’t wasted to the point of not being able to walk (see N. 7).
Jensen Rodriguez’s answer to What’s the weirdest thing your friend did that made you question their intelligence? - Not respecting your boundaries.
If you don’t date people who have been in 5 relationships over the past 3 years, don’t break your rules.If you don’t party on Sundays, don’t break your rules.If you only want “0 tolerance for betrayals” relationships or friendships, again, do not break your rules.
Always stick to your boundaries, without exceptions.
- Staying in a toxic relationship.
If you feel like you have tried everything to make it work and you are still struggling to make it work, you are very likely extending your suffering and delaying the inevitable (See N. 4).
Jensen Rodriguez’s answer to What is the most “no! This I’m out” moment of your relationship? - Trying to change someone’s opinion.
I have to admit that I’m guilty of this, but the truth is that people most likely made up their mind already and won’t change their opinion, and if they do, their ego is probably bigger than the sun so it’s pointless however you see it unless you find an openminded person. - Dating the bad guys.
If I have to explain this one to you then you are probably doomed anyway.Please proceed to the next bullet point. - Regrets.
No one is perfect, but at least try to live your life in such a way that when something doesn’t go your way, you are able to sit back and say:
“I gave my best, I will do it better next time”. - Being envious.
People won’t care about you anyway and if anything, they will only care enough to avoid you.The success of others don’t influence your success or the lack of in any way, so try to avoid feeling that way because it is pointless and you are only wasting your precious energy. - Gossiping.
I am going to put it this way, people don’t really care about the gossip, they are only entertained by it, however, they do care about the gossiper and they care a lot or at least enough to be wary of them as they believe that you might be trashing behind their back as well. - Unnecessary spending.
It won’t improve your quality of life and it will wreak havoc your potential savings, don’t do this.
Jensen Rodriguez’s answer to What screams “I make terrible financial decisions!”? - Not staying up to date.
The world is changing so fast and Artificial intelligence is taking over some of our jobs, the only way to shield yourself against the greatest technological revolution of our lifetime is to stay up to date.At least try dedicating a few hours a week to deliberate learning, you will be grateful for it. - Treating waiters, servers and other services employees like trash.
If you believe that it is worth anything to be an awful person then go for it. - Revenge.
What are you trying to achieve?Waste your time on making someone else feel as miserable as they made you feel?I understand your point, but can’t agree on you spending your precious time on something that isn’t worth anything when you could have been using it to improve your situation.
- Not having a North.
You might not have a clue on how to achieve your goals.Heck! You might not have a goal at all.You probably don’t have any idea of what to do with your life or even if it is worth living it.
But one thing you should be doing at all times:
Improving yourself one step at a time.
Read for at least 5 to 10 hours a week.
Enroll in classes.
Meet people.
You get the idea, always try to improve your situation step by step until you start gaining traction.
