Ahhhh. So excited for you to see this video.
(My director, Jameson Jordan, killed it this week.)
I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags?
How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time?
This video solves that problem for you.
In this video, I add a distinction that I’ve never said before and I don’t think you will have ever thought about it…
Let me know what you think once you’ve watched it, friend.
Much love.
P.S. For all the sh*t you’re going through right now that others don’t know about, I love you and I’m with you.
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i think that every video i’ve ever done
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could be looked at not simply through
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the lens of dating and relationships
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but through the lens of time the idea of
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not suffering for longer than we need to
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not spending longer with the wrong
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person than we need to
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not repeating the same mistakes that are
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costly in terms of time
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in fact one of the main questions i get
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from people is how do i read someone’s
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intentions how do i know if they’re just
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stringing me along
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how do i know if this person is wasting
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my time i’ve recently posted something
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across all of my social media saying if
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you want to know someone’s intentions
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watch their actions not their words
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because actions have a far harder time
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lying now someone replied challenging
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this principle
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and their reply is worth noting okay
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flip that
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what if he’s telling you that he doesn’t
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want a relationship with you
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but won’t stop calling texting wanting
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to spend time with you
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sleeping with you making future plans
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with you
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sharing hopes dreams fears troubles
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which do you believe i thought this was
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a great point
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because it suggests that the literal
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inverse of what i
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said is true in that case that if you
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were to watch that person’s actions you
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would continue to invest more and more
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and more because their actions would be
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saying the right
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thing even though their words are saying
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the wrong thing
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so based on this comment i want to add
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an addendum
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to this principle of paying more
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attention to someone’s
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actions than their words if you want to
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know someone’s intentions
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watch their actions not their words
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unless
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what they’re telling you is difficult
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for them
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to say when we’re trying to make any
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kind of a sale in life
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we want to say all of the things that
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are going to help us make that sale
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if in the course of that sales
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presentation
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someone tells you something undesirable
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unwelcome
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something that could cost them the sale
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what they’re saying in that moment
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should be given particular
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attention in that case we shouldn’t be
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blindly looking at their actions and
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what they invest in us
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we should be paying attention to the
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small print
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i think of it like a pharmaceutical ad
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when someone is
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trying to sell you on a pill that’s
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going to take away some pain or ailment
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that you have
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and it shows you this bright meadow and
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happy people
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and after all of that powerful emotional
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good feeling it reads you as quickly as
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possible the small print of how this
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drug is going to make you want to kill
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yourself
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ask your doctor today about kevorka
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side effects may include making you want
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to kill yourself i think of
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what someone’s selling you when they
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tell you they don’t want a relationship
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as being like that
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it’s like a commercial for a
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relationship where someone is walking
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you through the scenes
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here’s us going to a movie here’s us in
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a
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park having a picnic here’s a moment
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where i confide in you with
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something vulnerable and aren’t we
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connected in this moment then after all
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of these
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relationship-esque scenes that make you
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feel
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so invested comes a small print where
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someone says
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warning this romance comes without a
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title we’ll never call you girlfriend
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just not ready for a relationship and
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not looking for anything serious right
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now
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that’s the small print because when
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somebody is telling you
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i don’t want anything serious amidst
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doing all of the right things
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or they’re telling you i don’t want a
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relationship even though
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they’re behaving as if you’re already in
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a relationship
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what they’re saying requires effort to
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say
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it may sabotage the very attention they
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are trying to get
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that means it was inconvenient for them
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to say
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and if it was inconvenient for them to
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say if it was something that could cost
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them the sale
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then it’s something that should be given
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extra
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attention over and above their actions
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before you go i have a program called
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how to talk to men which is one of my
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most
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popular programs because it literally
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breaks down
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word-for-word communication whether it’s
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creating attraction more respect
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conveying your standards i’ve actually
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taken an entire chapter of that program
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that is on
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flirting and i’m giving it away for free
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today so you can go and download that
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at getthefreechapter.com
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warning downloading this free chapter
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may result in flirtatious banter
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uncontrollable attraction quite possibly
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a loving relationship